Friday, October 22, 2010
"You Can't Make Me" .... but I can be persuaded.
I heard about this book from this article. After a long-winded email to my sis about my parenting woes... she replied with that link.
I really loved what the article had to say, and went straight to Amazon to order my copy. :)
Now that I've read the book, I would just say: Go read the article. Slowly. It's a really good, condensed version of what the book had to say.
Things I liked:
The author really stresses that strong-willed children (SWC) aren't trying to make you mad. They are wired differently.
The author is herself strong-willed, so she gives many personal examples of how SWC view the world--specifically black-and-white orders. Really eye-opening, since I am about as far from strong-willed as you can get.
The most important thing you can do is cultivate a relationship of unconditional love with your SWC and find out what motivates them.
She talks about how the SWC can pull a family apart, and how that's the devil's plan. That also opened my eyes and made me want to be more proactive about my parenting, as opposed to reactive.
Things I didn't like so much:
After about the half-way point of the book, she seemed to start repeating herself. I think the book was really written to parents who are about to kick their SWC out of the house in exasperation and her book is to try to help the parents love their child again. Maybe that's why she starts repeating herself. And, maybe it's a good thing I read this book early enough so as not to need the repetition. ;)
Good book... the article is just as good.